Working as a representative

When a person is called to do their own constellation, they may select you to be a representative: a member of their family, a part of themselves, a country, religion or abstract concept such as ‘truth’ or ‘what happened’. They will guide you intuitively around the room until it feels like you are standing in the ‘right’ place. You are then invited to simply tune into your body and allow whatever is there to gradually emerge. This might be a sensation, an emotion or a need to move. You don’t have to ‘do’ anything. If you just wait, something will slowly begin to come through you. This process normally happens in silence. As a representative, you receive a gift which you can make use of at a future date, as every constellation is really for everyone. You may, on reflecting at the end of the workshop, discover themes in terms of who or what you have been chosen to represent. This will give you clues about your own process. You will also undoubtedly experience healing for yourself during the constellation itself.

The Holding Circle

In sitting in the holding circle, you will learn the power of staying present to what is happening and at times you will notice how, when the energy in the constellation appears to be completely stuck, people in the holding circle will start to become affected and may feel some of what is not being felt in the constellation, as if the energy has ‘pinged’ out to the sides. Sometimes when this happens you will be asked to join the constellation.

Doing your own constellation

If you opt to do your own personal constellation you will learn about the power of generational repeats, how the actions of your ancestors are having an effect on your current family situation, how disruption to the ‘order’ in the system is having repercussions. You will learn about letting go of blame and seeing everyone doing the best they can in the context of their own suffering and difficulty. You may experience deep release as you begin to face the reality of ‘what is’ in your family and what you can and can’t change. You may also experience the power of ritual in coming to accept what is or to redress the order in the family so everyone feels in their right place.

I have many examples of people outside the constellation being affected by what is happening inside the workshop. Long lost relatives, adopted children may ring up out of the blue; people may begin to feel different without knowing why. Apparently infertile couples may become pregnant. Relationships may begin to change quite radically as greater acceptance becomes possible.

Operating intuitively in the world is a wonderful gift. You will learn from doing this work that we all have a powerful intuition which improves with use and you will begin to rely on it more to give you clues about what is happening in your life and what you need to do next. You will begin to view the world in an entirely different way, through intuition rather than logic. You will begin to trust your body more and realise that it contains a treasure chest of messages and memories waiting to be revealed when you are ready to listen.

Standing as a representative for a schizophrenic for example will open you up to the impossible flood of energy these people experience and how overwhelming that is. You may experience what it is like to be completely taken over by an energy you know is not yours. This will give you a deep understanding of what it must be like for this person – from the inside as it were. You will come to recognise in the end that ultimately we are all ‘one’, led by a greater force or mystery, over which we have no control. One constellation takes from 1 to 1.1\2 hours.